My Break Up Story…

Jan 21st, 2014, was one of the crazy moments in my life. My very young relationship, in which I had built my life around, had just ended. I was in Bauchi State, Nigeria, far away from loved ones who would have helped me in my recovery. Emotional pain was so real. I would wake up at night and cry myself back to sleep. I refused to accept reality, I was eagerly waiting for that call, that text message, but it never came. I thank God for the life of a friend who would always check on me, counsel me and encourage me to move on.

In my quest to move on, I read many articles online: how to forget your ex, how to handle a break up. Hmmm, the mere fact that few months ago, I was reading books and articles on being a godly wife, making your relationship work, made me break down the more.

But thank God for His Holyspirit. I would cry, “God this hurts badly, let this pain be over quickly”. God heard my prayers, except for the “quickly part”. Lol! He wasn’t going to let me jump out of that trial prematurely. Hehehehehe, not so fast!

These were the precise words that dropped in my spirit man from these two scriptures: 1 Peter 5:10 and James 1:2: “Olubunmi Abegunde, count it all joy, consider yourself fortunate, be glad whenever you are enveloped in trials of any sort, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. Because you have the knowledge that the testing of your faith gives you the power of going on in hope. The result is the ability to endure. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colours. So don’t try to get out of anything prematurely, let the power of endurance. have its full effect, carrying you all the way without failing. Let it do its work so you become mature and well developed, perfect and complete, not deficient in any way”.

Dear friends, God is saying to you today “don’t try to get out of anything prematurely”. I don’t know what life has thrown at you recently. Are you at your crunch point where you think that the only option is to throw in the towel: drop out of school, commit suicide, get a divorce, begin to prostitute. Never! God is saying to you endure. My Grace is sufficient for you. For my strength is made perfect in your weakness.

Just as there is no shortcut to success, also there is no shortcut to coming out of trials. It’s a process you have to go through so that you can become mature. It’s a phase that has an expiry date.

I saw a very funny post recently. It says “guy breaks up with girl, girl runs to Jesus. Gbam! The guy has won a soul to the Kingdom. Lol! It is funny but true. In my case, I was bornagain but my relationship with the Father was nose diving. But thank God for the break up! It brought me back to my senses. Glory!

One of those nights, while in deep thoughts, the Holyspirit instructed me to begin to study the book of proverbs. I read and took notes the first time. By the time I read the second time, wowsa! I was Illuminated. I discovered the blessings of my feminity. And I saw the secret to a successful marriage. After many of such encounters, the Holyspirit laid it in my heart to begin to post lessons learnt from my personal time with Him on Facebook. That was how my writing journey began. Also, I joined the evangelism unit in my church in Bauchi, and was actively involved in evangelism.

Dear friends, As soon as I shifted the focus from myself to God, my healing began. Guess what, He didn’t mend my heart, He gave me brand new ones. He can do same for you too. You don’t have to carry the scars. Everything can be brand new, if you trust God enough.

Let me end with [NLT] 1 Corinthians 10:13. It says “The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure”.

Points to note:

1. Your situation is common to man. You won’t be the first to experience it, neither will you be the last. I wish I were the last person to experience break up though. *smiles*

2. God won’t make you pass through something that will overcome you. He is too faithful to fail. He formed you from the beginning and knew that you had the capacity to handle that failure. If God says you can, trust me you can!

3. There is a way out of that betrayal, defeat, and pain. Jesus is the only way! He was the way yesterday, He is the way today, and He will continue to be the way forever. Also, Jesus is the living word. Therefore, settle with the word and be empowered to endure.

Never forget this: every trial you go through gives you the opportunity to help someone else in a similar situation in the future.

Therefore, endure so that you can become mature . You can always expect victory in the future until it becomes a culture. ‪#‎rhymingthings


Have you ever been in a heart rending situation and you felt like it was completely over for you? Please share with us in the comment box below how you overcame...

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2 Responses to My Break Up Story…

  1. ltkphoenix says:

    My story is similar. I was born again, in a relationship, he cheated couldn’t believe it. That time l felt so empty. I felt like the world had just stopped, and l was writing exams on top of that the anger l had made me get distinctions lol. Then that’s when l joined a church BLW nation. I shifted all my focus to God and now l am a brand new person

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    • Awww… You turned negativity to positivity by attacking the exam and coming out with distinction. Lovely! I love your story dear. I am glad that at each crunch point, we find Jesus and all He does is to raise us up. Thank you for sharing with us.


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