Continuing this series, today I will be addressing the other two assumptions/myths mentioned in Part One. If you missed it, please click on this link to read the post. Relationship Advice for Men (Part 1)
As a recap, I established previously that the creation process happened just once. The Bible never recorded that God formed another man from the soil or made another woman from a rib. Hence, you and your wife are both products of the seeds of men. God put the seed in Adam and the soil (womb) in eve and blessed them: Be fruitful, multiply, replenish… Therefore, I would rightly say that no other woman was formed out of the rib of a man except Eve. Your woman is a seed, not a rib.
It’s time to burst the other bubbles!
Bubble 2: One rib was taken from a man; therefore, only one wife was created for him.
According to statistics, the world population is currently about 7.5 billion people. Depending on the country you originate from, the ratio of the male population to female population varies relatively, leaving us with an imbalanced gender population. In addition, we must bear in mind that some religions permit polygamy- a man having more than one wife. Based on these facts, I think it is unrealistic to think that there is just one woman created for one man.
I have heard different teachings of how God has written the name of the person you will marry before you were born and that if you miss that person you have missed destiny. These teachings ultimately imply that God chooses your life partner for you without your consent. Errmm, I know this is a very sensitive issue with many divided opinions. However, my question to you is this: can you quote anywhere in the scripture where God chose a wife for a man? Please do not mention Adam or Hosea because you would be wrong. If you read your Bible well, God did not choose Eve for Adam, he presented Eve before Adam, and Adam made his choice to be joined to the woman. Hosea was asked to go and marry a prostitute and he went ahead to marry Gomer.
Dear brothers, please do not be trapped in the ideologies of men! They have told you that your destiny and that of one sister was tied from heaven. Yet, the sister is not even giving you audience at all. She has even married right before your eyes, and you still insist that she is your wife. Well done sir! Please wake up brother. Don’t place God in a box. One person cannot limit God. He has replacements! Wake up! Find that woman that will be a helpmeet suitable for you through the help of the Holyspirit; for the Holyspirit searches diligently, exploring and examining everything, even sounding the profound and bottomless things of God [the divine counsels and things hidden and beyond man’s scrutiny. I Corinthian 2:10b (AMPC).
Bubble 3: God took the material He used to make the woman from Adam’s side because she is meant to be by his side, not on top and not beneath.
This myth originates from Matthew Henry’s Bible commentary. It goes thus: “the woman was made of a rib out of the side of Adam; not made out of his head to rule over him, nor out of his feet to be trampled upon by him, but out of his side to be equal with him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be beloved”. While this sounds very pleasing to the ear and sounds like the truth, I must say that it is not THE truth. The God I serve is a very organized and deliberate God, full of infinite wisdom. Therefore, there must be more to this thing than sense knowledge. Why did God make Eve out of Adam’s ribs? Why not is lungs or nails?
Number 1 reason: The rib is a bone, and in a bone, we have bone marrows- a soft blood-forming tissue that fills the bone cavities and contains red and white blood cells, and platelets. According to Leviticus 17:11a (NIV), “for the life of a creature is in the blood”. Therefore, God had to use a material in man that produced life and that material was a bone.
Number 2 reason: as mentioned in part one, the rib is the only bone in the human body that not only has the ability to repair itself, but can also regenerate itself. If God had cut off Adam’s leg, it would not have grown back and that would have left Adam deformed. However, remember that all that God made was good. Therefore, Adam had to remain good. Hence, the reason for picking the rib- a strategic part of the body that regrows by default.
In conclusion, my dear handsome unmarried brothers, nothing liberates like the Truth, and until you sit down yourself to find this Truth you will be lost in the opinions of others. If whatever opinion/conviction you hold on to is based on merely what relationship experts have to say, then I challenge you to sit down with your Bible, read, listen and meditate on what your Father has to say concerning the institution He created for your own benefit. There is no better relationship/marriage book than the Bible and no better relationship expert than the Holyspirit.
Thank you for reading. I hope this blessed you and sparked the desire to dig the scriptures for yourself to find your conviction. I would love to read your views about this. So, please feel free to drop a comment…